speechless (How to help someone who is grieving)

Heyy blog..since i promise myself to start writing in this online diary,yeaa here i am..you know what..last week i witness another lost in the ICU..Parents lost their precious babygirl..such a heart-wrenching moment..i don't even know them but when i listen to their cries, how they missed their baby girl and so on..tears are falling from my eyes like a waterfall..no parent should ever lost a  child..They say that no parent should bury their child..

Guys..if you have friends or family that gone through such lost, i want to share something that i taught might help a bit...here we go 

How to help someone who is grieving

You’ve taken the first step by just wondering how you can help your loved one.

Here are some ways you can support them now and in the future.

1. Listen

Perhaps one of the main legacies from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and her work is the importance of listening to the grieving person.

You might have the best intentions and want to provide comforting words. But in some instances, the best support comes from just being there and making it clear that you’re available to listen to whatever — and whenever — they want to share.

It’s also important to accept it if your loved one doesn’t want to talk with you. Give them time and space.

2. Reach out

Not everyone knows how to comfort others. It might be intimidating or overwhelming seeing someone you care about have a rough time.

But don’t let these fears stop you from offering help or from being there. Lead with empathy, and the rest will follow.

3. Be practical

Look for ways to ease the weight off your loved one’s shoulders. Explore the areas they might need help managing while they process their loss.

This could mean helping with food preparation or grocery shopping, organizing their room or house, or picking up their children from school.

4. Don’t assume

You might want to verbally offer your support and be attentive to whatever they tell you might help them feel better. But avoid assuming or guessing “which step” of the process they’re going through at the moment.

A smiley face or no tears don’t necessarily mean they’re not grieving. A change in their physical appearance doesn’t mean they’re depressed.

Wait for them to express how they feel, if they’re ready, and go from there.

5. Search for resources

You might have the clarity of mind and the energy to browse local support groups and organizations, call an insurance company, and find a mental health professional.

The decision of reaching out for this kind of help is, of course, entirely up to the grieving person. But having the information at hand might save time whenever they’re prepared or willing to take it.

source : https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief#how-to-help

new rotation ( ICU )

hai bloggg..dear  future me who read again this entry...haha..the one and only reader is me lahh..who else..kahakahkah..OK hari ni start sudah rotation saya di ICU..1 tahun saya kerja di outpatient..8 bulan di Gym dan 4 bulan di bilik Hand and Peadiatric..nah sikarangg kita naik di ICU..kasi exercise patient di ICU..tadi pagi selepas buat Chest Physio sama satu uncle tu, terus staff nurse cakap..uncle kita mandi yaaa...oh ya kalau di ICU memang semua nurse yang buat..kasi mandi,cuci berak kencing dll..no caregiver allowed..yalah ICU pulak tu..kalau di general ward bolehlah penjaga yang buat...ok back to the story..bila dengar begitu terus terimbau kisah yang lalu..few years back..belum COVID punya musim lagi..ada satu aunty tu..dia sudah extubated..tapi tidak obey command..kena tanya itu ini, diam jak dia..kena suruh angkat tangan,genggam jari, semua dia tidak ikut...semua risau sudah..sampai doktor plan mau buat CT Brain sbb GCS tidak improve..baaahhaaa..kenapa si aunty ni...kami kasi exercise pun memang x dapat ikut..longlai tangan dia..sekali nurse tu cakap..auntyyy kita mandi aaa...yalah,walaupun patient tidak bagi respon,tetap juga kita cakap sama patient..TIDAK MAUUUU!!!...sekali tariak  si aunty.nyaring lagi suara dia...gara2 mo kena kasi mandi...kami semua terdiam sekejap...terus ramai2 ketawa..astaga!!!rupanya kena PRANK kami oleh si aunty..selama ni rupanya dia nda layan jak..sekali kalah juga dengan mandi..terbongkar helah c aunty!adoiiii..kalau ingat blk mesti sy ketawa sndiri..funny bah!apapun..goodluck to myself..babaiii..

p/s: mmg lepas ni saiz font besar ahh..si macik inda nampak sudah bahhh..hehehehe..